Thursday, 7 March 2013

How to Know a Person Suffering from Inferiority complex

Inferiority complex is a feeling that you are not as good, as intelligent, as attractive, as competent, or as valuable as others. This wrong intent persuades you to accept that you are incapable, even in the midst of your abilities.

Inferiority complex or low self esteem is a concept we are all familiar with. Chances are you, or someone you know, suffers from this complex. Those with low self esteem are most likely to be depressed, irritable, or aggressive. They may also be more likely to have propensities of resentment, alienation, and unhappiness. So what are the ways to know a person that has inferiority complex? Here are some of them.

Fault-finding attitude: people who do not feel good about themselves have trouble feeling good about anyone else. They look hard for flaws and shortcomings of others to try to convince themselves that they really aren't so bad after all. These people cannot feel intelligent, attractive, competent, etc., unless they are the most intelligent, attractive and competent around.
Unfitting response to flattery: this can work in two ways. Some people are desperate to hear anything good about themselves and will be constantly fishing for compliments. Others may refuse to listen to anything positive about themselves because it is inconsistent with their own feelings.
Tendency towards blaming: some people project their perceived weaknesses onto others in order to lesson the pain of feeling inferior. From here, it is only a short step to blaming others for one's failures.
Propensity of persecution: taken to its extreme, blaming others can extend to believing that others are actively seeking to ruin you. If a woman is fired from her job, for example, it may comfort him to believe that her boss was out to get her. It allows her to avoid personal responsibility for her failure.
Wrong feelings about competition: people who feel inferior like to win games and contests every bit as anyone else, but they tend to avoid such situations because deep down, they believe they cannot win. And not coming in first is clear evidence of total failure.
Seclusion and timidity: because people with an inferiority complex believe that they are not as interesting or intelligent as others, they believe that other people will feel the same way about them. So they tend to avoid social situations, and when they are forced to be with others, they will avoid speaking up because they believe doing so will only provide an embarrassing demonstration of their dullness and stupidity.
Sensitivity to criticism: although people who feel inferior know they have shortcomings, they do not like other people to point this out. They tend to perceive any form of criticism, regardless of how sensitively or constructively it is presented, as a personal attack.

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