How to Make The Most of Your Life
Every step you take in life should be on the goal of making the most out of your life. You can maximize your life. You can make it the envy of your generation. Be in the know by reading this piece.
Allow mistakes! When you run away from mistakes, you are simply making a mistake. Mistake is the pathway to perfection and is a way of living. To avoid mistakes is to avoid living! Mistakes happen. Not only do they happen, they are guaranteed to happen. To err is human. To avoid mistakes, do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing. This itself is a bigger mistake. Mistakes are the invitation letters for God’s mercy and they remind us that we are not perfect. They cause us to depend on the grace of God from time to time. In fact, God would hardly use a man or woman who has not passed through the University of Mistakes. Too many people are afraid to try something new because they feel they might make mistake. They are both right and wrong. Yes, they will probably make mistakes but it is good to understand that errors are the raw materials for heroes. You will never accomplish great or worthwhile things without risk and risk generally means great mistake potential. You are probably reading this piece by light bulbs invented by Thomas Edison. He made over a thousand light bulbs that didn’t work. The world would have called them mistakes, but he gave a simple remark about those trials: “I have learnt a thousand ways not to make a light bulb.” The way to avoid mistakes is experience. The way to get experience is by mistakes. Don’t feel bad because you messed up something in your past. All great people did! It was Henry C. Link who said: “While one person hesitates because he feels inferior, another is busy making mistakes and becoming superior.”
Take risks! The lives that have affected nations and communities have been great risk takers. There is a popular saying that, “No venture, no success.” Both the fearful and the brave will die but once. Nobody dies twice. Only brave men and women will always win in the battles of life. The history and literary character, Julius Caesar once said, “Cowards die many times before their death. Make up your mind from today to take those business, marital, academic risks and decisions you have been postponing due to fear of failure or criticism. The great South African Human Right Activist, Bishop Desmond Tutu once made a profound statement. He said, “Faith is a profound risk, but it is a risk I will not risk living without.” I remember a slogan: “Risk more than others think is safe. Care more than others think is wise. Dream more than others think is practical. Expect more than others think is possible.” The greatest risk in life is to risk nothing. Be bold enough to take bold steps. No risks – pay the cost; know risk – reap the reward.
Simple Steps to Customize Your Life
You can live a better higher and more beautiful life. You can make your life look so special that you become the cynosure of all eyes. A customized life is a life lived in its true essence. Have you once thought the shape of life? I have thought and pondered about it, and I have even asked so many questions so as to deduce the shape of life. Here comes the gist: life takes the shape which you give it, so customize yours.
You must know yourself. Knowing who you are is the first step to make your life as special as you want it to be. You must possess a sense of self- awareness that is void of self-doubt you must come to the realization of who you are made to be by the creator God and the unlimited opportunities that abounds. When you come to this state, you become creator of circumstance and never a creature of it. You must know what you want in your life; why you were created; what motivates and makes you happy; what you want to change about your life. How you relate with others; your most important beliefs and values, and how you see yourself as a person.
You must accept yourself. You can’t customize your life unless it is accepted and embraced with love. When you accept yourself, you can now learn to accept others and accept making your unique contribution to the world your priority and ultimate responsibility. To only dream of the person you are supposed to be is to waste the person you are now. Accept yourself and work on becoming better. You must appreciate who you are, what you are, what you have, where you are, where you come from and how you look. Accept your individuality.
You must make use of your abilities. You must make use of your talents and be known by it. Think of a customized car: it is known by its specials qualities and features, and the possession of that which on other car has. You were packaged in such a way that you can do a thing which no other person can do. Let the world know you by that. Be a person of mark and be marked by your unique ways of doing things. Don’t hide your gifts. They were meant and given to you by God for you to share it with the world.
A customized life is the envy of other lives. Customize your life and let it be one that is marked by effulgence, sapience, abundance, excellence, audacity, ingenuity integrity, dignity, and creativity.
Ways to Shine Brighter and Inspire Others to Shine
Your effulgence is simply incomparable! You can move from shining to shining brighter. You can be the person that lightens your environment. You can inspire the universe to aspire for a better and higher life. If you are ready to shine brighter, this article will put you in the know.
You can shine brighter in life, you possess all it takes, and it is within you. Increase and let your light be on the foundation of sapience that cannot be explained or interpreted by mortal men.
Put your talents, gifts, abilities and skills to work. Showcase your talent in earnest. Do not try to dole it out like a miser, spend it lavishly like on millionaire’s intent of going broke. Don’t get distracted in your quest to increase your effulgence. Clearly see and select what you know how to do best, what you are great in doing. Humbly and sincerely present yourself unto your maker and be of a good attitude that will encourage others, and make the world a better place.
You can inspire others to greatness. Start by identifying and discovering your potentials, purpose and power. Do not sit down, fold your hands, and watch others showcase and flaunt what they got. Get down to work. Get out of your cocoon and do the world a world of good. Come up in the world, and let the world know that this is not the end of the world. Be on top of the world and do something that is out of this world. The world is your oyster, if you can set out to work.
Use your endowments rightly and sagaciously. In every circumstance and occasion, hit the mark and leave your mark. Look before you leap. Listen before you speak. Think before you act. Don’t pick on people unduly. Don’t throw sticks and stones, but lay a firm foundation for another success with the bricks others throw at you. Keep your hair on when people get in your hair.
Be in the right company and allow the right people into your life. Don’t be an island and do not underrate the influence of those you allow your life. Associate rightly because the less you associate with the wrong people, the more your life will improve and the more your life will be an inspiration to people around. Don’t live for yourself. Live for others! Don’t be selfish. Uphold collective effort. Be teachable and coachable. Be submissive.
Be yourself and have a good personality. Let faith, empathy, generosity, kindheartedness, affection and love be your lifestyle. Be the one who cares for others. Be gracious in your dealings with others. Be patient with people. Be that inspiration that makes better the system that drives the progress of humanity.
How to Overcome Fear
An old man was asked what had robbed him of joy in his life, his reply was 'things that never happened.' Fear is as hot air balloons. Once we grab hold of them, we are flung all over the countryside, terrified, out of control, anxious & powerless. Yet we fail to notice that no one forced us to grab onto the balloon in the first place. How would it be to stay put, safe on the ground, while the balloons goes off on their merry, scary way? If this image captures your imagination, play with it. Next time you have a fear attack, imagine a big hot air balloon touching down near ynu. Notice how tempting it is to grab on (or even to climb into) the basket, and then see yourself deciding to let it go. Watch the balloon careening over the landscape, while you remain, safe and sound, on the ground.
> you can ovecome fear by working and being so close to your teacher, coach or mentor.
> ignore fear: to ignore fear is much better than fighting it. Once your mind is on something else, fear loses its power. So when fear calls your phone, don't argue with it, just hang up!
> open up: hiding what you fear only intensifies it. Fear grows in the dark and become bigger and bigger, but when exposed to the light of truth, it shrinks. Let me remind you the truth you need to expose it to if you have forgotten. YOU ARE A STAR.
> take a risk, there is no other way. To conquer new territories in all works of life, you must take risk. Be willing to face danger and discover new world.
> try all you can to know yourself. Once you have gotten the knowledge of who you are, fear can't hold you down.
No matter what arouses fear in you, is it your background, physical disabilities, past failures, ignorance of what future holds for you, don't build obstacles in your mind for individuals with varying levels of challenges, short-comings and difficulties can rise above their circumstances and make positive contributions to the world.
Adapted from OGWO DAVID EMENIKE'S YOU ARE A STAR.
Caged in Timidity, Here is the Way Out
Overcoming timidity is a must for any man who wants or yearns to be a high-flier in life. You must not let timidity prevent you from shinning. You ought not to be marked by timorousness, but make your mark in this day and age by living courageously.
The tragedy in the life of a timid man is not necessarily that he is timorous, but obviously there is something that dies in him while he still lives. The fastest way to lose what you have is by not using it due to lack of courage and confidence, which provides the enabling environment necessary for you to make use of what you have.
Many men and women have lived and died without exhibiting their talents because of lack of knowledge which is occasioned by the devastating tendencies of timidity. You could be blamed and held responsible when you have been taught on how to escape from the cage of timidity and you refused to take a step. If you want to succeed in life, you have to overcome your timidity.
You must know yourself. No man was created by the Creator on the standpoint of timidity, but rather he breathed into man the spirit of boldness, courage and confidence after molding him. You have all it takes to rule your world. You can accomplish your goals. You can live your dreams. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. You can be the best. There are no impossibilities in your life. You are simply courageous and confidence. You cannot be a failure. You are a success. You are a star. You must know that the world needs you.
The role of a mentor or coach cannot be overemphasized in overcoming timidity. The words of a mentor are always there to inspire and motivate you to take up challenges, to embark on adventures so as to make your timidity disappear.
You must develop self confidence. The worst enemy of confidence is timidity. A person cannot do anything whatsoever in a positive way while holding generally, negative feelings about himself. You must learn to feel that you are worthy and significant. Great men have always done so. They are men who don’t turn away from challenges, but rather confront them. Let confidence be in every step you take. Let it be your lifestyle. Timidity makes you shrink from your possession, while confidence keeps you firm on it.
You are very good at something, find out that you do best, work diligently on it until you excel at it and capitalize upon it. Sell yourself on the fact that you are as good, as capable, as important and even better in some aspects as those with whom you usually associate.
Speak up! Air your view; voice your displeasures, your likes and dislikes. Do it continuously and before long, your fear of speaking up and your timidity will vanish. If there are things you always wanted to do but somehow never got around to them, get started on them now! Work at them now! It may not be easy but go on just doing the same. By trying over and over again, your sense of inadequacy will disappear and your timidity will vanish into the thin air.
What to Do With the “Sticks and Stones” Others Throw at You
Have you ever thought or considered what you can do with the “sticks and stones” thrown at you by critics? Do you know how to transform criticism into a useful material for greater success? This article has all it takes to give you the required answers. Enjoy reading it!
Do you know that sticks and stones are thrown at fruit-bearing trees? Do you know that to avoid criticism you have to do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing? Have you observed that the highest joy of critics is to see you stop showcasing your talents, progressing and prospering after they have vilified you?
You must lay a foundation for another success with this stones others throw at you. A truly successful person is one who can lay a firm foundation with the stones others throw at him. When you experience great criticisms from people against you, know that it is time to lay another foundation for success.
You must fix the “sticks” and use it as a ladder of success. The most difficult part in climbing the ladder of success is getting through the crowd who are at the bottom. When you introduce a new method or way of doing things, criticism will come. Use them to build the ladder you need to climb upon to be top things.
Don’t go off the boil due to criticism of others. Simply because the enemy planted a noisy negative, discouraging thought in your brain doesn’t mean you have to “water it, nurture it, coddle it, and help it to grow. If you surrender control of your mind to the opinion and critics of others, you will lose your identity and become more or less a chameleon in life. Don’t let other people’s opinion dictate who you are. Tell your critics who you truly are by snubbing them and working to achieve fantastic feats.
You must use the criticisms of others to correct yourself if you are wrong. Don’t do it in a way they will notice it lest yourself image will be tampered with. If there are any worthy lessons in the criticisms you received, admit that and let the respect you have for yourself be intact. Don’t ever tamper with your self-esteem, self value, self image and self worth when people criticize you and they were partially right, but their presentation and manner of approach suggest hurting and to belittle you.
A time when you receive criticisms is not a time to dump your abilities and start to criticize others. It is a time to showcasing your talent. It is a time to observe how myopic people are in understanding. It is a time to stick to those that see the good in you and encourages you to go forward even when the going is tough. It is a time to thank God that you are bearing fruits. Finally, it is time to know how valuable you are because people discuss you.
Do We Really Need Others to Survive?
The role of others in our lives sometimes may be underestimated. It may be overestimated, also, in some occasions. Do not fellow humans have a contribution to make in our lives? This article has the answer. Read on!
“When we survey our lives and endeavors, we soon observe that almost the whole of our actions and desires is bound up with the existence of other human being,” observed the well known scientist Albert Einstein. He added: “We eat food that others have produced, wear clothes that others have made, lives in houses that others have built…The individual is what he is and has the significance that he has not so much in virtue of his individuality, but rather as a member of a great human community, which directs his material and spiritual existence from the cradle to the grave.”
In the animal world, it is common to observe instinctive companionship. Elephants and cattle move about in herds, carefully guarding their young. Ant lives in colonies, sharing common goals and assignment. Lionesses hunt together and share their food with the males. Dolphins play together and have even protected other animals or swimmers in distress.
Among humans, however, social scientists have noted a tendency that causes growing concern. They observed that there is a rapidly growing tendency for many to isolate themselves. People want to live their own lives and strongly resist having others invade their space. The view has been expressed that this attitude has led human society to be more prone to emotional problems, depression, and suicide.
In this regard, Dr Goleman stated: “Social isolation, the notion that one doesn’t have anyone else with whom to share private feelings or maintain close contact doubles the possibility of sickness or death.” A report published in the journal science concluded that social isolation is as significant to mortality rates as the habit of smoking, high blood pressure, elevated cholesterol, obesity, and the of physical exercise.
For various reasons then, we really do need others. We cannot stand alone. Man, by nature, is a gregarious animal and hence he lives in the company of his fellow human being, where he draws and extracts nourishment for sustenance and livelihood. Life becomes easy and free flowing when it is associatively supported, upheld and fulfilled. Any man who tries or aims at succeeding alone has failure as a byproduct. Albert Einstein observes, “Almost the whole of our actions and desires is bound up with existence of other human beings.” Juanita Bynum, the gospel musician, got an inspiration on this topic and she sang one of her famous songs “I NEED YOU TO SURVIVE.”
How to Solve the Problem of Isolation
There is always a way out from every problem or predicament of life. Behind every problem lies solution. God didn’t intentioned or created man to live in isolation, but rather to live in the company of his fellow. This article contains lasting solutions to your problems of isolation.
King Solomon of ancient Israel declared: Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their hard work. For if one of them should fall, the other one can raise his partner up. But how will it be with just the one who falls when there is not another to raise him up? (Ecclesiastes4vs9-6) This wise observer of human behavior this highlights our need for companionship and the importance of not isolating ourselves. However, this was not just human opinion. Solomon’s statement resulted from divine wisdom and inspiration.
Man does not stand alone. People do not fare well in prolonged isolation from other humans. It is not wise to isolate ourselves people need one another. All of us need the strength and help that we can get from other humans. “One isolating himself will seek his own selfish longing,” says a Bible proverb, “Against all practical wisdom he will break forth” (proverbs18vs1). So it is not strange that social scientists encourage individuals to become part of a group and to take an interest in others.
The creator of life never intentioned or purposed that man should work alone and succeed alone. Here and there God has always made provision for the availability of supporters or destiny builders. From biological standpoint, there is what is called food chain, where the product from one animal as food for sustenance and consequent development. This essentially implies that no human being, even animal, succeeds in life all alone.
A tree cannot make a forest, so a man cannot succeed in life all by
himself. When you live in isolation, you end up overworking with little or no achievement. It is in the power of God to establish you and in the hand of men to introduce you. Whatever a man will be in life is divinely inherent in him, but it is in the function of another man to declare it or rather make it manifest. Consequently, the destiny of every human being is in the hand of another person who will make it manifest or bring it to limelight.
To get rid of the problems of isolation, share some love. You have love in you. It is in you. Share it with your family members, friends, relatives, and with the society at large. Brighten the countenance of anyone that comes across your way. Be ebullient and do not forget to smile always.